Relationships and Communication
Patterns and Connections
The quality of your relationships shapes the quality of your life. Not just emotionally, but physically and psychologically too. And yet, even the most thoughtful, self-aware people can find themselves stuck in the same relational loops; repeating arguments, holding back needs, over-functioning, or feeling misunderstood despite trying so hard to communicate clearly.
You may find yourself wondering:
Why does this keep happening?
Why do I shut down, or push people away when things feel tense?
Why does closeness sometimes feel as stressful as it is comforting?
Whether you’re navigating romantic relationships, family dynamics, friendships, or work relationships, these patterns rarely come out of nowhere. They’re shaped by how you’ve learned to relate, both to others, and to yourself.
Working as a Unit
Relationship struggles aren’t usually about a lack of care or effort. They’re about mismatched needs, unspoken fears, and protective strategies that once helped you feel safe, but are now hurting your partnership.
Couples therapy offers a structured, supportive environment to slow down reactive cycles and improve communication. It’s a place where partners can feel heard, both in what they’re saying, and in what they’re needing.
In therapy, we may focus on:
Identifying and interrupting patterns that lead to conflict or emotional distance
Improving communication and emotional attunement
Rebuilding trust after ruptures or misunderstandings
Navigating differences around intimacy, roles, or expectations
Supporting one another through transitions, stress, or uncertainty
Relationships don’t have to feel like constant effort or emotional guesswork. With the right support, they can become spaces of growth, security, and meaning.
Working with Yourself
Healthy relationships begin with you. How you understand your own emotions, tolerate discomfort, and make sense of closeness, conflict, and vulnerability.
In individual therapy, we’ll explore the narratives, emotional habits, and attachment patterns that influence how you show up in relationships.
This might include:
Difficulty expressing needs without guilt or fear
Avoiding conflict to keep the peace
Escalating quickly when things feel unresolved
Struggling with boundaries, people-pleasing, or over-responsibility
Feeling anxious, shut down, or reactive in moments of vulnerability
Wanting deeper connection while also feeling overwhelmed by it
By developing greater self-awareness and emotional literacy, you can begin to respond with more clarity and intention, rather than reacting from old patterns that no longer serve you.
Accountability, Compassion, and Real Change
Whether in individual or couples therapy, the work is grounded in both compassion and responsibility. I will support you in understanding your own role in relational dynamics, without shame or judgement, and help you practice intentional shifts that lead to a healthier relationship with yourself and others.
Using an attachment-informed lens, we’ll look at both your internal experience and the relational dynamics around you:
How you learned to seek closeness or protect yourself
What happens inside you during conflict or disconnection
The roles you tend to take on in relationships
How past experiences shape present expectations
This work isn’t about labeling or pathologizing. It’s about understanding your patterns so you can show up with more honesty, security, and authenticity in your relationships.
Over time, many clients notice:
More effective, less charged communication
Increased emotional safety and mutual understanding
Greater confidence expressing needs and boundaries
A deeper sense of connection to themselves and others
After all, the point is not to avoid conflict altogether. That’s not possible! The goal is to find ways to repair and rebuild after conflict has happened, and to find better ways to show up for ourselves and our loved ones.